5 Reasons why Your Toddler’s Tantrums are Actually Good

Toddler tantrums are probably one of the most challenging aspects of parenting young children, but totally developmentally normal . All toddlers have tantrums to some degree, they are part of life with a toddler! You can feel helpless, overwhelmed and clueless about how to best handle things when your little one is having a major meltdown. Keep reading to discover 5 reasons why those toddler tantrums can actually be good - as long as you’re able to keep things under control.

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5 Reasons why Your Toddler’s Tantrums are Actually Good

It Helps Him Share his Feelings with You

If your little one throws tantrums, that’s actually a good sign because he’s expressing his emotions with you - he’s open with you, and trusts you. He is letting you know he is upset. However small what he is upset about may seem to you, to him it is something BIG!

He knows what he wants, but may not know how to express this. Often having a tantrum is the only way young toddlers can express how they are feeling. 

It’ll Help Him Become More Expressive

When your toddler throws tantrums he gains a better understanding of his feelings and emotions. This in turn may help him develop the qualities of empathy and make him aware about other people’s emotions.

Talk things through with your toddler after his tantrum, (or just be there for him). Remember that feelings of anger, frustration and sadness are all new to him. Give him a hug after he has been upset and he will learn to do the same when others are upset. Acknowledge his feelings and help him learn how to express himself in different ways.

It’ll Help Him Explore Different Ways to Cope

Handling intense emotions can be difficult for adults, and even more so with kids. Your toddler is testing out different ways to deal with his emotions. With the right approach, you can teach your little one how crying and throwing himself on the floor is not always the right way to deal with something, and together, you both can learn different ways to react to situations he finds difficult.

It’ll Help you Establish Control

If your little one’s throwing tantrums because you said ‘no’ to him or asked him to do something he doesn't want to do - it helps your little one remember that you’re the one in control and things may not always go his way. It also helps your child understand the boundaries between what’s acceptable and what’s not.

Don’t avoid saying no just because you don't want your toddler to have a tantrum, stay firm so your toddler understands that when you say no you mean no. Whilst saying no you can still be there, offer a hug and reassurance to your toddler.

Based on the way you handle your little one’s tantrums, you can establish a strong bond with him. He might not like you saying no, but be consistant and help him through his feelings. Provide him with a safe space and he will learn that you love him unconditionally.

It’ll Help Him Sleep Better

You can probably relate to this one already. Just like you can have trouble sleeping when you have a build up of emotions, your child can too. Releasing those pent-up emotions may help your child sleep better. Remember that your child, just like you, is trying his best to process and absorb things about life that can often appear confusing and out of control. This let-out of emotions can actually be a nice detox.

5 Reasons why Your Toddler’s Tantrums are Actually Good

So next time your toddler has a tantrum, stay calm and in control and remind yourself how toddler tantrums are actually good!

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